LADIES! It has been a while since I wrote here. Honestly I have been processing some BIG things! But those are not what I’m talking about today.... maybe later... Today let’s talk about being broken. So many of us think that we have to be perfect to be used by God. So many of us think that others have such a perfect life. Y’all! That’s because of Fakebook and InstaFake! Come on! We don’t put our messy houses or screaming kids on social media! Because we want people to see the filtered makeuped versions of our lives. Because let’s face it people can’t handle Your reality! But here is what God has to say about being broken before Him! “The LORD is near to the heartbroken And He saves those who are crushed in spirit (contrite in heart, truly sorry for their sin).”
PSALM 34:18 AMP
Sometimes our brokenness comes from a outside circumstance that is out of our control. Sometimes we create circumstances that lead to our brokenness. But the truth is that no mater how brokenness has come our “through” is not just for us! It’s for Sally down the street who lost her Dad and doesn’t know how to even take a breath. It’s for Jenn at church who had a “friend” absolutely betray her in a unimaginable way. Y’all hurt people hurt people and we are all a little broken and walking out our journey to wholeness. Why should we have to walk it alone? What if your through is just what I need to get through something so big? So ladies let that light come into your broken places today! Let me pray for you!
God I pray that you would be so near to the broken woman reading this blog today! I pray that she would tangibly feel your love! I pray that You would use her to tangibly show your love to another woman today! We thank you for your nearness! We praise You in this storm! You are worthy Father! We thank You that our through is going to be someone else’s BREAKTHROUGH!
In Jesus Name
Love You Sister’s!
And so it Begins.......
Well here goes Everything! I know the saying is nothing, but I am saying everything because that is how I roll. I am a hundred and ten percent all in! My goal in this blog is to Encourage Women across the globe to Jump in and show up in their lives. So many times we walk around and just let life happen to us instead of getting up every day and decide that we are going to Live on Purpose with Purpose. I want to be your number one cheerleader. I want to help you succeed in anything and everything you put your heart, mind, and soul into! Ok? Well On Your Mark, Get Set, GO!
Lets talk Relationships Y'all!
They are HARD! For Reals! Specifically today I am going to get real, Raw, and honest about Marriage. My husband and I met when I was 12. Yes 12. We have been together for 24 years. Now that you put your calculators down and know how old I am lets talk about what this means. This means that we learned to communicate with each other when we were Pre-Teens. (I need to be able to insert emojis here) Now that my Son is a full on pre-teen I am learning so much more about my relationship with my hubs of 18 years and why communication has been such a huge struggle for us. My son is so emotional and stubborn and thinks he knows everything and would argue with a brick wall about the wall being orange. When in real life it is red. Y'all for real my son is my husbands twin. The hubs and I have fought to communicate better year after year. There has been A LOT of fighting y'all. A LOT. But there has been a lot of learning too. I want to share just one tool we have learned.
We HAVE to fight fair!
For the longest we would fight and fight and get nowhere. Neither one of us could see things from another perspective. Ok truth is we did not choose to even think about the others perspective because we were too caught up in our own views of the situation. Have you ever done that with God? Think about it. We pray and pray and pray and talk to God and we get so mad at Him because we think He is not listening when all along He is listening and showing you the way but you can't get out of "Your View" enough to see/hear what He is doing? No? Me either lol. Well that is what Shane and I have learned to do with each other. We have learned to move past our frustration and view of what is happening and really listen to what the other has to say and how they see it instead of playing the blame game and getting nowhere. OK so don't go thinking WOW they have a perfect marriage. NO BRO! We still fight but we have a code word that takes us from the blame game or frustration point and causes us to take a step back and see the others view/perspective. I would tell you the word but umm no. LOL So I encourage you to open up to your spouse while you are not in a fight and say "Lets talk about how we fight" why not y'all?!?! Let's build Healthy Relationships TOGETHER. One Day at a time. One Choice at a time. One FIGHT at a time. Your Marriage is worth this conversation. Get a Code Word. Start Listening, really Listening. Often, there is a underlying frustration that has nothing to do with the actual thing you are fighting about.
God I pray that you would Bless the Marriage of every woman reading this! I pray that you would begin mending their relationships with their husbands starting TODAY. Starting Right this Second. Help them to learn to fight Fair! -In Jesus Name I pray-Amen
Love your Sis,