Anyone every have a day where they have said "I Quit" like 70million times? No? Me either. Ok But for reals. Can we real talk today? Women are MEAN! Ok so not all women are mean but I have come across some pretty mean, vindictive, competitive women in my life! I'm sure as you are ready this you are wanting to tag them in the comments LOL. Why that seems like Fun maybe we can figure out how to anonymously send this blog to them..... LOL ok all kidding aside lets talk about what we should do to thrive in a situation where we are forced to deal with people who are mean.
Maybe its your Boss, "friend", leader, Co-worker, sister, cousin, Aunt.... whoever it is lets do this. In one of my blogs I talk about fighting fair with my hubs. Well This is going to be kinda different because this fight is SO NOT FAIR. My mom always has said there is no such thing as Fair. Well except in September when the State FAIR is open. Ok Mom. Fine. God has called us to LOVE one another. He did not say when they are nice to you and don't talk about you behind your back then you are to Love them. I looked for a scripture that said that. I didn't find it. (Insert roll my eyes emoji)
What does it look like to love a mean person. Well It looks like faking it to you make it in the beginning.
We have to take a deep breath and smile.
We have to get to the point where we can pray for them. Yes Pray for the mean person. Not a easy thing. Yes I know.
Then you get to a place where you can hug them without holding your breath. Then you get to a place where you can truly say you love them. Some you will have to love at a distance because the negativity that they bring is something you do not need or want in your life.
Now this next part. Read carefully.
So many people are afraid to say this but I want to be very very clear. There are some situations that are NOT OK. Yes I believe that bullying is real. So I tell you this..... Quit putting yourself in the situation where you are constantly hurt or ran over. If you being Jesus and Loving that person is to be accomplished you may have to remove yourself from that place/situation. This is not easy. But necessary for the Business or Ministry to flourish. It may mean that you just move to a different Department. It doesn't have to mean you leave the company. Sometimes you just have to get out of the way and pray that they are not mean to anyone else. Now ladies don't go quitting your jobs and telling your husbands that Jess said to. _No Bro_ This is a extreme. This is something that only you and God can prayerfully decide.
Y'all Sometimes people don't even know they are mean. They need JESUS. They Need Love. They Need prayer. Peace is worth fighting for. Now all this being said. There are difficult people EVERYWHERE! The grass is truly not greener somewhere else. Let God show you what you need to learn where you are. In the situation that you are in.
On my main page of my blog I talk about Living loved so that you can show love. Think about this. If you truly know who you are. Know that you are a daughter of The King. Know that the maker of the Universe Loves you MORE than anyone else does and He Made you Perfect the way you are right this very second. He loves all the curves and imperfections that you see. Because he sees them as Perfections. He has made you in His image and He does NOT make Junk and He does NOT make Mistakes. You see if we truly know who we are and live from a place of being loved then #1 we are Not going to be the Mean person. and #2 we can LOVE the mean person on a New Level!!!!!!! Ladies am I perfect??? LOL nope. Do I aim for this everyday? YES!!!! Let's lock arms and work on this together. Look in the Mirror and Thank God for your imperfections. Thank God for your Mean Person. Thank God that He is teaching you and Growing you into the Woman that He created you to be.
Today let's FIGHT for peace.
Lets stop being mean.
Lets Love on a New Level.
And Let's Truly LIVE LOVED!
God I pray for the Beautiful Loved woman reading this. I pray that you would dry her tears and give her a glimpse of who she is meant to be. I pray that you shower her with Love like only You can. I pray that you use her to Show the Mean person in her life that She is loved. I pray that today would be the first day in her fight for Peace.
In Jesus Name I pray
Love your Sis
And so it Begins.......
Well here goes Everything! I know the saying is nothing, but I am saying everything because that is how I roll. I am a hundred and ten percent all in! My goal in this blog is to Encourage Women across the globe to Jump in and show up in their lives. So many times we walk around and just let life happen to us instead of getting up every day and decide that we are going to Live on Purpose with Purpose. I want to be your number one cheerleader. I want to help you succeed in anything and everything you put your heart, mind, and soul into! Ok? Well On Your Mark, Get Set, GO!
Lets talk Relationships Y'all!
They are HARD! For Reals! Specifically today I am going to get real, Raw, and honest about Marriage. My husband and I met when I was 12. Yes 12. We have been together for 24 years. Now that you put your calculators down and know how old I am lets talk about what this means. This means that we learned to communicate with each other when we were Pre-Teens. (I need to be able to insert emojis here) Now that my Son is a full on pre-teen I am learning so much more about my relationship with my hubs of 18 years and why communication has been such a huge struggle for us. My son is so emotional and stubborn and thinks he knows everything and would argue with a brick wall about the wall being orange. When in real life it is red. Y'all for real my son is my husbands twin. The hubs and I have fought to communicate better year after year. There has been A LOT of fighting y'all. A LOT. But there has been a lot of learning too. I want to share just one tool we have learned.
We HAVE to fight fair!
For the longest we would fight and fight and get nowhere. Neither one of us could see things from another perspective. Ok truth is we did not choose to even think about the others perspective because we were too caught up in our own views of the situation. Have you ever done that with God? Think about it. We pray and pray and pray and talk to God and we get so mad at Him because we think He is not listening when all along He is listening and showing you the way but you can't get out of "Your View" enough to see/hear what He is doing? No? Me either lol. Well that is what Shane and I have learned to do with each other. We have learned to move past our frustration and view of what is happening and really listen to what the other has to say and how they see it instead of playing the blame game and getting nowhere. OK so don't go thinking WOW they have a perfect marriage. NO BRO! We still fight but we have a code word that takes us from the blame game or frustration point and causes us to take a step back and see the others view/perspective. I would tell you the word but umm no. LOL So I encourage you to open up to your spouse while you are not in a fight and say "Lets talk about how we fight" why not y'all?!?! Let's build Healthy Relationships TOGETHER. One Day at a time. One Choice at a time. One FIGHT at a time. Your Marriage is worth this conversation. Get a Code Word. Start Listening, really Listening. Often, there is a underlying frustration that has nothing to do with the actual thing you are fighting about.
God I pray that you would Bless the Marriage of every woman reading this! I pray that you would begin mending their relationships with their husbands starting TODAY. Starting Right this Second. Help them to learn to fight Fair! -In Jesus Name I pray-Amen
Love your Sis,