In a Dark Place.....
There is a Meme going around on Facebook that says "When you're in a dark place, you sometimes tend to think you've been buried. Perhaps you've been planted. Bloom"
Today I want to talk about what God showed me in my prayer closet. There is so much truth to this statement but there is way more to it! Have you ever just woke up day after day and all you see or feel is darkness? Meaning you can't see the Light at the end of the tunnel, you can't seem to find your way out of your brokenness? Maybe it got dark suddenly. Maybe it was small things that kept creeping in and then one day you realized how dark it really was. Today I want to talk about some steps to help us GET OUT of that place. This one is going to go deep y'all. But stay with me tomorrow I'm sure I'll talk about shoes LOL.
HOW TO BLOOM
Growing is one thing. I don't know about you but I am really good at growing weeds. They are everywhere. They don't need much to grow and they can overtake all of my flowers in a heartbeat. All I need to feed them is negativity, gossip, insecurity, doubt..... Yep I said it. Being planted is one thing. Growing is another. What you Feed Grows. If I feed the darkness then the darkness grows. It is time to start feeding the Spirit Woman inside you. This does not mean Sunday Morning Church only y'all. Church is great and has its place but Feeding your spirit woman takes intentionality. You have to Intentionally wake up and decide that Today is going to be different. Maybe you have to take small steps and add in one song that speaks to who you want to be. Then add one verse. Then add one book. Then get BRAVE and walk up to that woman you see at church that you want to be like and say "I need you in my life. Like on the real not just on Sundays." Ladies we need each other. We need the Real. Not the Everything is perfect FakeBook you. We need The word. We need to Praise. We need to Worship. We need to speak words of Life into others and have others that speak words of Life into us! It is time to start feeding the YOU that you know is inside. The You that you know is ready to BLOOM! This will mean that there will be weeds that have to go. Negative people that you will love at a distance. Radio stations that you will no longer have on. Books, TV Shows, & Movies that will no longer be Your thing. Get you some friends that will come in and help you get your weeds out and reach down and grab you right out of the darkness and pull you into the light and then keep watering you until you bloom!
I challenge you to FIND a church to go to. Go with a open heart and mind.
I also challenge you to Take 2 seconds and Pray this prayer
-God I pray that you will help me learn what I am supposed to learn in this darkness. I pray that you put women in my life that will help me to grow into the woman that you have created me to be. I want to BLOOM! -AMEN
Look around beautiful woman of God! Today is a new day! The sun is shining and You are positioned for Blooming!
God I pray that you will heal the hurt & the brokenness in the beautiful woman reading this. I pray that you will help them to feed the spirit woman inside her! I pray that she will choose to See You in something today. I pray that she will BLOOM!
In Jesus name I pray
Love your Sis
And so it Begins.......
Well here goes Everything! I know the saying is nothing, but I am saying everything because that is how I roll. I am a hundred and ten percent all in! My goal in this blog is to Encourage Women across the globe to Jump in and show up in their lives. So many times we walk around and just let life happen to us instead of getting up every day and decide that we are going to Live on Purpose with Purpose. I want to be your number one cheerleader. I want to help you succeed in anything and everything you put your heart, mind, and soul into! Ok? Well On Your Mark, Get Set, GO!
Lets talk Relationships Y'all!
They are HARD! For Reals! Specifically today I am going to get real, Raw, and honest about Marriage. My husband and I met when I was 12. Yes 12. We have been together for 24 years. Now that you put your calculators down and know how old I am lets talk about what this means. This means that we learned to communicate with each other when we were Pre-Teens. (I need to be able to insert emojis here) Now that my Son is a full on pre-teen I am learning so much more about my relationship with my hubs of 18 years and why communication has been such a huge struggle for us. My son is so emotional and stubborn and thinks he knows everything and would argue with a brick wall about the wall being orange. When in real life it is red. Y'all for real my son is my husbands twin. The hubs and I have fought to communicate better year after year. There has been A LOT of fighting y'all. A LOT. But there has been a lot of learning too. I want to share just one tool we have learned.
We HAVE to fight fair!
For the longest we would fight and fight and get nowhere. Neither one of us could see things from another perspective. Ok truth is we did not choose to even think about the others perspective because we were too caught up in our own views of the situation. Have you ever done that with God? Think about it. We pray and pray and pray and talk to God and we get so mad at Him because we think He is not listening when all along He is listening and showing you the way but you can't get out of "Your View" enough to see/hear what He is doing? No? Me either lol. Well that is what Shane and I have learned to do with each other. We have learned to move past our frustration and view of what is happening and really listen to what the other has to say and how they see it instead of playing the blame game and getting nowhere. OK so don't go thinking WOW they have a perfect marriage. NO BRO! We still fight but we have a code word that takes us from the blame game or frustration point and causes us to take a step back and see the others view/perspective. I would tell you the word but umm no. LOL So I encourage you to open up to your spouse while you are not in a fight and say "Lets talk about how we fight" why not y'all?!?! Let's build Healthy Relationships TOGETHER. One Day at a time. One Choice at a time. One FIGHT at a time. Your Marriage is worth this conversation. Get a Code Word. Start Listening, really Listening. Often, there is a underlying frustration that has nothing to do with the actual thing you are fighting about.
God I pray that you would Bless the Marriage of every woman reading this! I pray that you would begin mending their relationships with their husbands starting TODAY. Starting Right this Second. Help them to learn to fight Fair! -In Jesus Name I pray-Amen
Love your Sis,