So Hey y’all! How’s it going? It’s been a minute, right?! I’ve taken some time to gather my thoughts and heart during this new season in PA. But I’m back!!!!
I’ve noticed a trend lately so I wanted to jump on here and address it. I have had so many women come to me so broken. And the common statement is “I know I am supposed to be the strong one”. Ok you guys it’s time for us to stop beating ourselves up for being broken. There are seasons in our lives. Some are short some are long some we push through some we are dragged through. Maybe you lost a friend, a mom, dad, child, grandma aunt uncle cousin. Maybe through death. Maybe through extreme hurt. No matter what led to your brokenness I am here not to cheer you on to stay broken. Not even to cheer you on to get whole. I know that’s what you thought was coming. Nope. I’m here to tell you that it’s ok to not be ok. So many times we think we have to give advice and immediately pull someone out of the pit of despair they either fell in jumper in or dug their own pit. I’m here to tell you that we need to be sensitive to others situations. Sometimes you need to be the friend that sits on the phone and sobs with your friend because sometimes life just sucks. Recently I did this. I also layed hands on the phone and prayed for them then we sobbed together. But I also to her I would not let her stay in the pit. She got to have her moment and be where she was and process the situation as a whole then she has to do the work to get out of the pit. Brokenness has a purpose. My brokenness in my life has become the propeller that has pushed me to be better, do better, to grow into the woman God created me to be and to have the confidence to be who God says I am!
Take a big deep breath Woman of God. Cry it out. Yell scream stomp do what you need to do to process the “pit” season. But don’t get stuck in the mud!
God i I pray for each person reading this today! I pray that you will send them a friend who will sob with them then reach down in the pit with no care for the mess and pull them out of the darkness to the light!
Now run to the light!
Now Be the kind of friend that you want to have!
love you Sis!!
Hey Y’all! It’s been a minute since I’ve blogged been settling in here in Pennsylvania! Today I want to talk to you about how your shoes fit... well kinda lol. Moving here and having lost so much weight I’ve realized I’ve gone down in shoe size. Today as I was reflecting on what God did in my heart at church this morning He showed me something that made me immediately grab my phone and share here! So many times we try and fit into shoes that don’t quite fit. I recently bought the cutest leopard print booties in what I thought was my size. Y’all like for real THE CUTEST! They got to my house and they were way too big...I almost just kept them because they were so cute! But truth is I could never wear them they were just too big. Have you ever said Yes to doing something but you just said yes because you knew that you could do it? But truly it’s not what you were called to do? Ok so that’s what I’ve done here in PA. I am singing with the hubs ok honestly leading worship with the hubs in a way I have never done. Is it my calling. Nope. If I’m honest I’ve had a bad attitude about it. I’ve been negative. I’ve pushed back. But then one day God said ok are you done? You know the kind of ok are you done we as moms say to our toddlers throwing a fit. Umm yes ok I’m done. I get it. You see the shoe of lead female vocal so does not fit me in the slightest and never will. But it’s the shoe I have on right now. It’s where God has me for a season(please God let it be a short season) God has said put on some thinker socks and trust me that I don’t make mistakes. I know the desires of your heart and they will come to pass and through your obedience I’m going to take you to the path where the shoes fit but first you need to learn to lead when you are just a little bit uncomfortable so I can take you to where I shine brighter than You. So if you thought I was gonna say that you shouldn’t wear shoes that don’t fit. Sorry. God is wanting to take you to where He can use you in such HUGE ways! Sometimes we have to get some blisters and put on thicker socks before we get to that place! I have something that I have only dreamed about happening in my life right this second. I will share more about that later. But let’s just say I won’t need those thick socks soon! But I can tell you that God is using my obedience to take me to a place where I almost gave up on seeing. Don’t give up on your dreams and be obedient right where you are! Let’s do this together ladies!
God I pray that you help my sister who is reading this right now to take a deep breath and begin to walk in thankfulness for the uncomfortable season that she is in. Turn their negativity into thick socks of thankfulness. God I pray that you help us all to learn what you need us to learn in this season so that we can walk into the thing that You Have called us to do equipped and ready!
In Jesus Name
love you sisters!😘
MOVING TO PENNSYLVANIA!
LADIES! It has been a while since I wrote here. Honestly I have been processing some BIG things! But those are not what I’m talking about today.... maybe later... Today let’s talk about being broken. So many of us think that we have to be perfect to be used by God. So many of us think that others have such a perfect life. Y’all! That’s because of Fakebook and InstaFake! Come on! We don’t put our messy houses or screaming kids on social media! Because we want people to see the filtered makeuped versions of our lives. Because let’s face it people can’t handle Your reality! But here is what God has to say about being broken before Him! “The LORD is near to the heartbroken And He saves those who are crushed in spirit (contrite in heart, truly sorry for their sin).”
PSALM 34:18 AMP
Sometimes our brokenness comes from a outside circumstance that is out of our control. Sometimes we create circumstances that lead to our brokenness. But the truth is that no mater how brokenness has come our “through” is not just for us! It’s for Sally down the street who lost her Dad and doesn’t know how to even take a breath. It’s for Jenn at church who had a “friend” absolutely betray her in a unimaginable way. Y’all hurt people hurt people and we are all a little broken and walking out our journey to wholeness. Why should we have to walk it alone? What if your through is just what I need to get through something so big? So ladies let that light come into your broken places today! Let me pray for you!
God I pray that you would be so near to the broken woman reading this blog today! I pray that she would tangibly feel your love! I pray that You would use her to tangibly show your love to another woman today! We thank you for your nearness! We praise You in this storm! You are worthy Father! We thank You that our through is going to be someone else’s BREAKTHROUGH!
In Jesus Name
Love You Sister’s!
And so it Begins.......
Well here goes Everything! I know the saying is nothing, but I am saying everything because that is how I roll. I am a hundred and ten percent all in! My goal in this blog is to Encourage Women across the globe to Jump in and show up in their lives. So many times we walk around and just let life happen to us instead of getting up every day and decide that we are going to Live on Purpose with Purpose. I want to be your number one cheerleader. I want to help you succeed in anything and everything you put your heart, mind, and soul into! Ok? Well On Your Mark, Get Set, GO!
Lets talk Relationships Y'all!
They are HARD! For Reals! Specifically today I am going to get real, Raw, and honest about Marriage. My husband and I met when I was 12. Yes 12. We have been together for 24 years. Now that you put your calculators down and know how old I am lets talk about what this means. This means that we learned to communicate with each other when we were Pre-Teens. (I need to be able to insert emojis here) Now that my Son is a full on pre-teen I am learning so much more about my relationship with my hubs of 18 years and why communication has been such a huge struggle for us. My son is so emotional and stubborn and thinks he knows everything and would argue with a brick wall about the wall being orange. When in real life it is red. Y'all for real my son is my husbands twin. The hubs and I have fought to communicate better year after year. There has been A LOT of fighting y'all. A LOT. But there has been a lot of learning too. I want to share just one tool we have learned.
We HAVE to fight fair!
For the longest we would fight and fight and get nowhere. Neither one of us could see things from another perspective. Ok truth is we did not choose to even think about the others perspective because we were too caught up in our own views of the situation. Have you ever done that with God? Think about it. We pray and pray and pray and talk to God and we get so mad at Him because we think He is not listening when all along He is listening and showing you the way but you can't get out of "Your View" enough to see/hear what He is doing? No? Me either lol. Well that is what Shane and I have learned to do with each other. We have learned to move past our frustration and view of what is happening and really listen to what the other has to say and how they see it instead of playing the blame game and getting nowhere. OK so don't go thinking WOW they have a perfect marriage. NO BRO! We still fight but we have a code word that takes us from the blame game or frustration point and causes us to take a step back and see the others view/perspective. I would tell you the word but umm no. LOL So I encourage you to open up to your spouse while you are not in a fight and say "Lets talk about how we fight" why not y'all?!?! Let's build Healthy Relationships TOGETHER. One Day at a time. One Choice at a time. One FIGHT at a time. Your Marriage is worth this conversation. Get a Code Word. Start Listening, really Listening. Often, there is a underlying frustration that has nothing to do with the actual thing you are fighting about.
God I pray that you would Bless the Marriage of every woman reading this! I pray that you would begin mending their relationships with their husbands starting TODAY. Starting Right this Second. Help them to learn to fight Fair! -In Jesus Name I pray-Amen
Love your Sis,