Hey Y’all! It’s been a minute since I’ve blogged been settling in here in Pennsylvania! Today I want to talk to you about how your shoes fit... well kinda lol. Moving here and having lost so much weight I’ve realized I’ve gone down in shoe size. Today as I was reflecting on what God did in my heart at church this morning He showed me something that made me immediately grab my phone and share here! So many times we try and fit into shoes that don’t quite fit. I recently bought the cutest leopard print booties in what I thought was my size. Y’all like for real THE CUTEST! They got to my house and they were way too big...I almost just kept them because they were so cute! But truth is I could never wear them they were just too big. Have you ever said Yes to doing something but you just said yes because you knew that you could do it? But truly it’s not what you were called to do? Ok so that’s what I’ve done here in PA. I am singing with the hubs ok honestly leading worship with the hubs in a way I have never done. Is it my calling. Nope. If I’m honest I’ve had a bad attitude about it. I’ve been negative. I’ve pushed back. But then one day God said ok are you done? You know the kind of ok are you done we as moms say to our toddlers throwing a fit. Umm yes ok I’m done. I get it. You see the shoe of lead female vocal so does not fit me in the slightest and never will. But it’s the shoe I have on right now. It’s where God has me for a season(please God let it be a short season) God has said put on some thinker socks and trust me that I don’t make mistakes. I know the desires of your heart and they will come to pass and through your obedience I’m going to take you to the path where the shoes fit but first you need to learn to lead when you are just a little bit uncomfortable so I can take you to where I shine brighter than You. So if you thought I was gonna say that you shouldn’t wear shoes that don’t fit. Sorry. God is wanting to take you to where He can use you in such HUGE ways! Sometimes we have to get some blisters and put on thicker socks before we get to that place! I have something that I have only dreamed about happening in my life right this second. I will share more about that later. But let’s just say I won’t need those thick socks soon! But I can tell you that God is using my obedience to take me to a place where I almost gave up on seeing. Don’t give up on your dreams and be obedient right where you are! Let’s do this together ladies!
God I pray that you help my sister who is reading this right now to take a deep breath and begin to walk in thankfulness for the uncomfortable season that she is in. Turn their negativity into thick socks of thankfulness. God I pray that you help us all to learn what you need us to learn in this season so that we can walk into the thing that You Have called us to do equipped and ready!
In Jesus Name
love you sisters!😘
MOVING TO PENNSYLVANIA!
LADIES! It has been a while since I wrote here. Honestly I have been processing some BIG things! But those are not what I’m talking about today.... maybe later... Today let’s talk about being broken. So many of us think that we have to be perfect to be used by God. So many of us think that others have such a perfect life. Y’all! That’s because of Fakebook and InstaFake! Come on! We don’t put our messy houses or screaming kids on social media! Because we want people to see the filtered makeuped versions of our lives. Because let’s face it people can’t handle Your reality! But here is what God has to say about being broken before Him! “The LORD is near to the heartbroken And He saves those who are crushed in spirit (contrite in heart, truly sorry for their sin).”
PSALM 34:18 AMP
Sometimes our brokenness comes from a outside circumstance that is out of our control. Sometimes we create circumstances that lead to our brokenness. But the truth is that no mater how brokenness has come our “through” is not just for us! It’s for Sally down the street who lost her Dad and doesn’t know how to even take a breath. It’s for Jenn at church who had a “friend” absolutely betray her in a unimaginable way. Y’all hurt people hurt people and we are all a little broken and walking out our journey to wholeness. Why should we have to walk it alone? What if your through is just what I need to get through something so big? So ladies let that light come into your broken places today! Let me pray for you!
God I pray that you would be so near to the broken woman reading this blog today! I pray that she would tangibly feel your love! I pray that You would use her to tangibly show your love to another woman today! We thank you for your nearness! We praise You in this storm! You are worthy Father! We thank You that our through is going to be someone else’s BREAKTHROUGH!
In Jesus Name
Love You Sister’s!
Have you ever had the urge to Run away? I’m so not a runner but I have ran away from home. When I was like 10 my cousins and I decided that we had had enough. Our parents were M.E.A.N. We were done with them. So we packed up some food and ran away. My cousins live in the country so we ended up camped out in the field next door to their house. Yep we ran “far” away lol. Then eventually ended up going home because of the bugs in the field, oh and we were bored lol. All of this and our parents didn’t even notice we had “ran away” lol. Have you ever tried to run away as a adult? Maybe it is from a problem or a bully. Maybe it’s full on from God. Let me share some things with you about God and hiding/running away.
Gods word is very clear that He is where we are to run and hide. Running from Him just does not make since. It’s like my cousins and I running away from the very people that loved us most in this world. It just doesn’t make sense.
“For you are my hiding place; you protect me from trouble. You surround me with songs of victory. Interlude”
Psalms 32:7 NLT
He is where we find HOPE! He is our shield! Have you ever been in a situation where you felt like you kept getting pelted with tiny push pins over and over and you just wish you had a shield? Maybe your tiny push pins were not so tiny. I pray today that you will let your Daddy God shield you and trust that there is Hope! Not just of the attack stopping and the enemy being defeated! But hope that His promises for your life are COMING!
“You are my refuge and my shield; your word is my source of hope.”
Psalms 119:114 NLT
“For he will conceal me there when troubles come; he will hide me in his sanctuary. He will place me out of reach on a high rock.”
Psalms 27:5 NLT
Have you ever needed shelter? Like legit someone is bullying you or beating you up? What about Have you ever needed shelter from yourself. Insert shock and awe emoji. So many times we are our worst enemy. We tear ourselves apart. We nitpick all of the negative things about our actions, our words, our body, our mommin, how we are as a spouse. LADIES. STOP IT! We have got to get to a place where we take a breath and stop being so hard on ourselves! God did not make a mistake when He created you! He wants to use you right now right the way that you are without you fixing one “flaw” that you think you have. My dogs name is Daisy. She is a Boston terrier and she has major allergies. The Vet has said that she will live a very long life but she is going to cost me some money. Jesus be the center. Her ears are THE WORST! They get so bad and she gets so many sores that when she scratches them I yell “Daisy, stop hurting my dog” Take a second and think about this. She is hurting herself. But to me she is someone (yes in my house she is family) who I love. Next time you start going down the negative talk about yourself I want you to hear God say “(insert your name), stop hurting my daughter!”
I could probably talk a All a whole lot more about this y’all! But I am going to stop here. Today I want you to stop running and hiding in places and with people who cannot give you what you need. Start running to Him, to His word! Also STOP HURTING MY SISTER! You are loved by God You are loved by Me! Start treating yourself like it!
God I pray for my sweet sister reading this right this second. She may even have tears running down her face from the abuse that she has inflicted or others have. God I pray that you would wrap your arms around her and help her to Hide In You! I pray that you giver her Hope! I pray that you comfort and heal her like only You can!
In Jesus Name Amen
Live lived today Sis!
Let's talk CUTE Clothes!!! Ok I am in the processes of loosing weight so I refuse to pay full price for clothes because I go through a size a month.
Jesus. Be. The. Center.
It's Cray yall! But I Love Love Love me some Ruffles. I found the cutest sweater with ruffled sleeves that I basically wear anytime it is a little chilly outside. Because RUFFLES! I got it on my Shien App. At first I thought Shien was not legit but yall it is! Cute stuff REALLY Cheep! Look at measurements before you buy and don't expect it fast. It took like 2 weeks but it was so worth it. Cause RUFFLES LOL!
My earrings are BaubleBar. www.baublebar.com IF you don't know what that is GO....RUN....RIGHT.NOW. I have a couple of pairs. I usually buy their jewelry during sales because again I am not a full price kinda girl. Well not all the time.......
Lashes are by Studio K 817-691-8922. If you live in or near Mansfield SHE IS AMAZING!
Lips are Wet n Wild Mega Last Liquid Catsuit Color is Nice to Fuschia. I got mine at Target. I saw it on Amazon too.
Kirsten Garcia is my amazing Hair Genius! She does both my color and cut. If you live anywhere Near Forney TX ask me for her information.
My PERFECT Jesus Be The Center Shirt is designed and made by one of my Besties!!! Her shirts feel like Butter and she has a press so they do not fall apart at all! If you want to know how to order let me know. She can do Single Customs or Group Shirts as well. SHE WILL SHIP!!!!!!!
OK Yall this was FUN!!! Let me pray for you real quick!
God I pray for the Beautiful Woman reading this. I pray that you would bless her life in a New Exciting way this week! I pray that she would walk in Your Favor! I thank you for Her!
In Jesus Name
Sometimes it is super fun to take a Shopping break from the Deep Stuff! SO Shop On yall! I am so excited that you have chosen to do life with me!
It is literally 10 am and I have talked to 3 women who are in desperate need for God to Step into a situation in their lives.
Y'all Let's talk about Delayed Hope.
Have you every cried out to God for something? I mean for more than a hour? For weeks, months, years... I have. I am. There are promises that I am standing firm and still believing despite there not even being a glimpse of hope seen by my naked, human, limited eye. That's the thing. We have limited vision.
We can only see what we want to see. We can only see the right now thing that is happening right in front of us. We can't see the behind the scenes where God is working everything out for our Good. He is moving Heaven and Earth to give us the desires of our hearts. He hears our cries. You know How I can say this. ANDREW SHANE. That is my sons name. You see I cried out to God for 6 years for him to give me a child. That is 72 months where I cried because I found out that it was not time yet. God kept his promise to me and gave me my son. He is going to keep His promise to you. Let's all work together to see past our "Right Now" circumstances and start visualizing His promise coming to pass. One thing that has helped me is to focus on other women in my life who are standing on a promise and coming along side them and locking arms and helping them stand tall and firm as wave after wave comes. It gets my focus off of me and puts it on them and what God has for them! Try it!
Hurry up and Wait
If you or a loved one has been in the United States Marine Corps you know that this is a true statement for them. My Husband was in the USMC. It was crazy. They would say we are leaving sometime between now and next Tuesday then we would hurry up and get everything they needed and Tuesday would come and go..... and then there was a Suddenly that interrupted our day to day and he would have to deploy within a hour. Let's take the Marine Corp way of life and apply it to our walk and cries out to God. We pray and pray and "we" try and put a time frame on something. Sometimes its not our time frame sometimes its a legit time frame like my rent is due Wednesday and I am $300 Short. I am going to real talk for a sec. During that time in the USMC that we knew we had before the deadline to leave you read that we would go and get everything we needed so we were ready. Here is where you need to go and get everything you need before that date. Giving up and just going on Vacation with the rest of the rent money you had is not going to help you get anywhere close to what you need. Here me. God is ABLE but He also gave us free will. We have to go and get everything we need to be ready for what He is bringing us. Now about that Suddenly. You are one phone call, one text, one email away from God Blowing your mind with His Favor. Know this today He is able. He is Able. I am praying that you trust God Today!
What in the world do I mean by Delayed Hope. Have you every Hoped and hoped and prayed and Hoped and prayed and hoped and all you end up doing is getting frustrated with the delay? Last year coming home from a work trip I was delayed at the airport. I mean like a 6hour delay. That was CRAZY! But let me tell you about the Woman that I got to meet in the airport and not only hang out with for 6 hours but share Jesus with. My delay was her Salvation. Take a Minute and read that again. My delay was her salvation. You see I still got to my destination. I did miss a big event I was going to go to but I would miss it again and again for that one Woman. What if I would have been angry and just sat and read my book and ignored everyone around me? Gals Let's work on this! Let's work on looking around during our waiting and see what God has for us. Let's look around and see who we can bless and love on! Your Delay could just be someone else's Salvation!!!!!!
*Find you a Verse that is YOUR Verse that you are Standing on and not letting go of. Write it everywhere! Like for reals. On your computer at work. In your car. In your bathroom. In your kitchen. You guys get it!
*Open your eyes to see who God has for you to bless today!
*HE IS ABLE Trust Him on a New Level.
God I pray for the strong woman reading this! I pray that you would remove their blinders and show them someone that they can bless today. I pray that you would give them a vision of what You have for them. I pray that you would help them to Trust you like they have never trusted you. We thank you in advance for the promises that you are working on as I type this blog! You are Able!
In Jesus Name,
Love your Sis
Overcoming my Addiction to Pleasing People.
Anyone else reading this addicted to Pleasing People? Well I can tell you that I sure am. Yes I said am. God is still working on me. Today let's explore People Pleasing. Why we do it. Why we are addicted to it. And what we can do to Overcome it TOGETHER! I am gonna get real and real raw with you gals today!
Growing up my people pleasing addiction started with my Dad. I wanted to please him. I wanted him to sing my praises. Then one day he decided to leave. I know I know there is much more than a "he decided" but for the sake of this Blog and the fact that I was 12 that is how I felt. What this did to my people pleasing gene (yes we all have one) is make it grow to turn into a people pleasing addiction. Specifically Men in general.
This is not healthy. This is something that I have to fight on the daily. I have to step back and look at my day and say to myself. Self did you live today to please Man or did you live today to please God. Take a look at the Bible, the Disciples in particular. They left behind everything and everyone and followed Jesus. I can tell you right now that there were people dogging them for leaving. Talking bad about them left and right. But they were not in the people pleasing business they were in the God pleasing Business.
I was in a situation with a Boss/Leader that was so oppressing for me. Looking back now I can say that it was a lot me. He played his part and did some damage too but my unhealthy relationship with him is mostly to blame. I know that you all are going to a different place but I am talking about unhealthy in the way that I wanted him to sing my praises. I wanted to be the best. I wanted to be the number one Servant. I wanted to be the number one well Everything. I would jump when I was asked to do anything. I would never say no. I wanted to be asked to do more. To the point of neglecting my relationship with God, my husband, my kids, my friends, my family and more. Are you noticing a trend? "I wanted" I was caught up in pleasing a man instead of Pleasing GOD. I wanted to hear Well Done here on earth. I recognize this now that I am removed from the unhealthy situation. In this particular instance I did quit. I removed myself completely from this situation. It is what I needed and I am so much healthier for it.
Let's talk about what I do on the daily to combat this addiction that I have.
Pray. I pray that God would make me aware when I step into a situation and try and please someone besides HIM! You see I want to live for Him not for my Pastor, Teacher, Leader, Boss. I want to Glorify HIM in all I say and do. I also pray that He would open my eyes to those around me that are living in the addiction of People Pleasing. I do this because I get those people, and I want to pray for them specifically so that they can overcome their addiction.
Evaluate my actions. I take a look at what I do and say (and don't say) and make sure that It is for God's Glory not for Mans attention.
Learn from my people pleasing words and actions. Well so when I do that evaluating I am going to find that I did something that involved my P.P.A. So I recognize that behavior and then I pray and ask God to help me overcome that specific thing and not to do it again. Saying No is ok. Stop and think about it.
Why is it so important that I don't live each day to please people? Because I just might miss my purpose here if I am working to please a person instead of working to please my Heavenly Father. He is doing a work in me in this area and helping me overcome my addiction. Let's lock arms ladies and do fight this addiction together. ALL FOR HIS GLORY!
God I pray for the woman reading this. I pray that you would open her eyes to her people pleasing tendencies and help her to see where she needs to work to please YOU. Give her Wisdom on how to go about this. Give her strength to push through. I thank you for the Victories that are coming in her life!
In Jesus Name
Love your Sis
Anyone every have a day where they have said "I Quit" like 70million times? No? Me either. Ok But for reals. Can we real talk today? Women are MEAN! Ok so not all women are mean but I have come across some pretty mean, vindictive, competitive women in my life! I'm sure as you are ready this you are wanting to tag them in the comments LOL. Why that seems like Fun maybe we can figure out how to anonymously send this blog to them..... LOL ok all kidding aside lets talk about what we should do to thrive in a situation where we are forced to deal with people who are mean.
Maybe its your Boss, "friend", leader, Co-worker, sister, cousin, Aunt.... whoever it is lets do this. In one of my blogs I talk about fighting fair with my hubs. Well This is going to be kinda different because this fight is SO NOT FAIR. My mom always has said there is no such thing as Fair. Well except in September when the State FAIR is open. Ok Mom. Fine. God has called us to LOVE one another. He did not say when they are nice to you and don't talk about you behind your back then you are to Love them. I looked for a scripture that said that. I didn't find it. (Insert roll my eyes emoji)
What does it look like to love a mean person. Well It looks like faking it to you make it in the beginning.
We have to take a deep breath and smile.
We have to get to the point where we can pray for them. Yes Pray for the mean person. Not a easy thing. Yes I know.
Then you get to a place where you can hug them without holding your breath. Then you get to a place where you can truly say you love them. Some you will have to love at a distance because the negativity that they bring is something you do not need or want in your life.
Now this next part. Read carefully.
So many people are afraid to say this but I want to be very very clear. There are some situations that are NOT OK. Yes I believe that bullying is real. So I tell you this..... Quit putting yourself in the situation where you are constantly hurt or ran over. If you being Jesus and Loving that person is to be accomplished you may have to remove yourself from that place/situation. This is not easy. But necessary for the Business or Ministry to flourish. It may mean that you just move to a different Department. It doesn't have to mean you leave the company. Sometimes you just have to get out of the way and pray that they are not mean to anyone else. Now ladies don't go quitting your jobs and telling your husbands that Jess said to. _No Bro_ This is a extreme. This is something that only you and God can prayerfully decide.
Y'all Sometimes people don't even know they are mean. They need JESUS. They Need Love. They Need prayer. Peace is worth fighting for. Now all this being said. There are difficult people EVERYWHERE! The grass is truly not greener somewhere else. Let God show you what you need to learn where you are. In the situation that you are in.
On my main page of my blog I talk about Living loved so that you can show love. Think about this. If you truly know who you are. Know that you are a daughter of The King. Know that the maker of the Universe Loves you MORE than anyone else does and He Made you Perfect the way you are right this very second. He loves all the curves and imperfections that you see. Because he sees them as Perfections. He has made you in His image and He does NOT make Junk and He does NOT make Mistakes. You see if we truly know who we are and live from a place of being loved then #1 we are Not going to be the Mean person. and #2 we can LOVE the mean person on a New Level!!!!!!! Ladies am I perfect??? LOL nope. Do I aim for this everyday? YES!!!! Let's lock arms and work on this together. Look in the Mirror and Thank God for your imperfections. Thank God for your Mean Person. Thank God that He is teaching you and Growing you into the Woman that He created you to be.
Today let's FIGHT for peace.
Lets stop being mean.
Lets Love on a New Level.
And Let's Truly LIVE LOVED!
God I pray for the Beautiful Loved woman reading this. I pray that you would dry her tears and give her a glimpse of who she is meant to be. I pray that you shower her with Love like only You can. I pray that you use her to Show the Mean person in her life that She is loved. I pray that today would be the first day in her fight for Peace.
In Jesus Name I pray
Love your Sis
In a Dark Place.....
There is a Meme going around on Facebook that says "When you're in a dark place, you sometimes tend to think you've been buried. Perhaps you've been planted. Bloom"
Today I want to talk about what God showed me in my prayer closet. There is so much truth to this statement but there is way more to it! Have you ever just woke up day after day and all you see or feel is darkness? Meaning you can't see the Light at the end of the tunnel, you can't seem to find your way out of your brokenness? Maybe it got dark suddenly. Maybe it was small things that kept creeping in and then one day you realized how dark it really was. Today I want to talk about some steps to help us GET OUT of that place. This one is going to go deep y'all. But stay with me tomorrow I'm sure I'll talk about shoes LOL.
HOW TO BLOOM
Growing is one thing. I don't know about you but I am really good at growing weeds. They are everywhere. They don't need much to grow and they can overtake all of my flowers in a heartbeat. All I need to feed them is negativity, gossip, insecurity, doubt..... Yep I said it. Being planted is one thing. Growing is another. What you Feed Grows. If I feed the darkness then the darkness grows. It is time to start feeding the Spirit Woman inside you. This does not mean Sunday Morning Church only y'all. Church is great and has its place but Feeding your spirit woman takes intentionality. You have to Intentionally wake up and decide that Today is going to be different. Maybe you have to take small steps and add in one song that speaks to who you want to be. Then add one verse. Then add one book. Then get BRAVE and walk up to that woman you see at church that you want to be like and say "I need you in my life. Like on the real not just on Sundays." Ladies we need each other. We need the Real. Not the Everything is perfect FakeBook you. We need The word. We need to Praise. We need to Worship. We need to speak words of Life into others and have others that speak words of Life into us! It is time to start feeding the YOU that you know is inside. The You that you know is ready to BLOOM! This will mean that there will be weeds that have to go. Negative people that you will love at a distance. Radio stations that you will no longer have on. Books, TV Shows, & Movies that will no longer be Your thing. Get you some friends that will come in and help you get your weeds out and reach down and grab you right out of the darkness and pull you into the light and then keep watering you until you bloom!
I challenge you to FIND a church to go to. Go with a open heart and mind.
I also challenge you to Take 2 seconds and Pray this prayer
-God I pray that you will help me learn what I am supposed to learn in this darkness. I pray that you put women in my life that will help me to grow into the woman that you have created me to be. I want to BLOOM! -AMEN
Look around beautiful woman of God! Today is a new day! The sun is shining and You are positioned for Blooming!
God I pray that you will heal the hurt & the brokenness in the beautiful woman reading this. I pray that you will help them to feed the spirit woman inside her! I pray that she will choose to See You in something today. I pray that she will BLOOM!
In Jesus name I pray
Love your Sis
Killer of Dreams
Ladies!!!! Let's have some Real Talk today! So many times we think back on our Dreams. We talk about them, we research them. But we don't ever take a Step to make them happen. One of the Biggest Killer of Dreams is
We think we have tons of it! Or we think we don't have the time for US because all of our time goes to our kiddos and family. Take this Blog for instance. God gave me a dream about this blog when I was in my 20's before I even became a Momma. Before Blogging was the "Cool" thing to do. I have been researching bloggers and how to start and the best things to do for YEARS Years y'all! Then on my 38th Birthday my Momma said Jess it is TIME for you to do what God has called you to do! Dude what a wake up call! I knew what to do, I knew how to start! So I just woke up and DID IT! You see we can dream and pray but we have to MOVE. God did not create Chairs but he gave us Trees. Think about it! He gave us what we needed and then Gave us VISION, Creativity, & Dreams for what COULD BE! Your Purpose is so much bigger! God does not make mistakes! Let's Get up and take what God gave us and make it into a Beautiful CHAIR lol!!! One of the other Killers of Dreams is
Will people think I am crazy? Will people like it or hate it? Will they even go and read it, see it? STOP IT! Girl, you are a Child of THE KING! Repeat this after me.... I AM HIS FAVORITE. Well I am, technically! LOL! But for Reals God does not make Junk! You are His Favorite and if He put those desires in your heart HE is the one that will make them come to pass!!
*Ladies I am not your Momma but I am your Sister so Here is your wake up call! IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO DO WHAT GOD CREATED YOU TO DO! #dreamon
*Stop Overthinking! Just wake up and DO IT!!! This is your Time! No more Fear in Jesus Name! Call your Bestie and tell her you need a Push/Pep talk and then take a deep breath and put one foot in front of the Other and watch God Show you how to make that Chair lol
What are some Killers of Dreams that you can think of? How can we work together as sisters to overcome them? Comment and lets keep the Conversation going!
God I pray for my Sister reading this right now. I pray that you REAWAKEN the Dream that you planted inside of her! I pray that You go before this Dream and Destory anything and everything that will come against that Dream! I speak Life into her dream!
In Jesus Name
Love your Sis
And so it Begins.......
Well here goes Everything! I know the saying is nothing, but I am saying everything because that is how I roll. I am a hundred and ten percent all in! My goal in this blog is to Encourage Women across the globe to Jump in and show up in their lives. So many times we walk around and just let life happen to us instead of getting up every day and decide that we are going to Live on Purpose with Purpose. I want to be your number one cheerleader. I want to help you succeed in anything and everything you put your heart, mind, and soul into! Ok? Well On Your Mark, Get Set, GO!
Lets talk Relationships Y'all!
They are HARD! For Reals! Specifically today I am going to get real, Raw, and honest about Marriage. My husband and I met when I was 12. Yes 12. We have been together for 24 years. Now that you put your calculators down and know how old I am lets talk about what this means. This means that we learned to communicate with each other when we were Pre-Teens. (I need to be able to insert emojis here) Now that my Son is a full on pre-teen I am learning so much more about my relationship with my hubs of 18 years and why communication has been such a huge struggle for us. My son is so emotional and stubborn and thinks he knows everything and would argue with a brick wall about the wall being orange. When in real life it is red. Y'all for real my son is my husbands twin. The hubs and I have fought to communicate better year after year. There has been A LOT of fighting y'all. A LOT. But there has been a lot of learning too. I want to share just one tool we have learned.
We HAVE to fight fair!
For the longest we would fight and fight and get nowhere. Neither one of us could see things from another perspective. Ok truth is we did not choose to even think about the others perspective because we were too caught up in our own views of the situation. Have you ever done that with God? Think about it. We pray and pray and pray and talk to God and we get so mad at Him because we think He is not listening when all along He is listening and showing you the way but you can't get out of "Your View" enough to see/hear what He is doing? No? Me either lol. Well that is what Shane and I have learned to do with each other. We have learned to move past our frustration and view of what is happening and really listen to what the other has to say and how they see it instead of playing the blame game and getting nowhere. OK so don't go thinking WOW they have a perfect marriage. NO BRO! We still fight but we have a code word that takes us from the blame game or frustration point and causes us to take a step back and see the others view/perspective. I would tell you the word but umm no. LOL So I encourage you to open up to your spouse while you are not in a fight and say "Lets talk about how we fight" why not y'all?!?! Let's build Healthy Relationships TOGETHER. One Day at a time. One Choice at a time. One FIGHT at a time. Your Marriage is worth this conversation. Get a Code Word. Start Listening, really Listening. Often, there is a underlying frustration that has nothing to do with the actual thing you are fighting about.
God I pray that you would Bless the Marriage of every woman reading this! I pray that you would begin mending their relationships with their husbands starting TODAY. Starting Right this Second. Help them to learn to fight Fair! -In Jesus Name I pray-Amen
Love your Sis,